LENT REFLECTIONS



THE QUESTIONS THEMSELVES

We are born into this mystery. Why are we here? What is the purpose of our life? What are we supposed to do? The most important questions may not have answers. It is the questions themselves that guide us and inspire us.

“Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves.”

- Rainer Maria Rilke

Every year I send Lent Reflections on a given theme: silence, imperfection, transformation, letting do. This year the theme is questions.

 What is most unresolved in your heart?


LETTING THE ANSWER APPEAR

The first rule of answering, if there is one, is to wait. The part of our brain that has the “right” answer for everything is a dull place, built of endless chains of associations, everything we knew in the past. This knowing may be factually correct but there’s a problem with it. It is dead.

To touch something that is alive and authentic, calls for a search: “Is this really true right now?” But waiting even a split second takes courage. Dare I search in myself for what is more true? What if nothing arises? Never fear, there is a deeper wisdom in each of us, and it needs space, trust, and little time to appear. 

- Lillian Firestone

Do I know how to have real conversation?


KNOW THYSELF

In the courtyard of the Oracle of Delphi was a single inscription: Know Thyself. Those who would receive divine guidance must first look within and consider themselves.

Yet what is the self? Every moment, a river of images, thoughts, and feelings pours through us. Can we remember who we were and what we experienced on a single day ten years ago? Surely we lived it once, but the memories dissolve back into the current. Ten years from now, the self we are today will be lost. We exist in flux, and every moment is fleeting. Whether we choose to or not, we are constantly changing.

Are you open to change?

SILENCE

Contemplatives of every age and every religion have always sought the silence of the wilderness. Jesus himself lived for forty days in complete solitude. And we too are called to withdraw into a deep silence from time to time. Not with our books, our thoughts, and our memories, but completely naked in God’s presence – silent, empty, motionless, waiting.

Look at nature: the trees, flowers, grasses all grow in silence; the stars, the moon, the sun all move in silence. In the silence of the world, God is listening. And in the silence of the heart, God will speak.

- St. Teresa of Calcutta

Where do you find silence?


TEA CUP

Nan-in, a Japanese master, received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen. Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor's cup full, and then kept on pouring. The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. "It is overfull. No more will go in!"

"Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are so full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?"

Am I open to learn?


GO WITHIN

Therefore, my dear friend, I know of no other advice than this: Go within and scale the depths of your being from which your very life springs forth. At its source you will find the answer to the question…

- Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet






THE ORACLE

The ancient Greeks were obsessed with questions. Their philosophers endlessly debated every aspect of existence. They even questioned the gods. On consultation day, they flocked to the Oracle of Delphi, nestled on holy Mt. Parnassus in central Greece. They came to ask every possible question: Should we go to war? How will I die? Will there be a good harvest? Where are my lost sheep? Is the baby mine?

The Priestess of the Oracle would hear each question and then retreat to a secret chamber where she would receive answers in cryptic visions. In classic Greek style, the answers to the questions often led the seekers into the very tragedy that they were trying to avoid. Is it better not to know?

What would you ask the Oracle?


IMPERFECTION

We thrive when we have purpose, when we still have more to do. Deliberate incompleteness has long been part of creation … In Navajo culture some craftsmen and women sought imperfection, giving their textiles an intended flaw called a “spirit line” so that there is a reason to continue making work. Nearly a quarter of Navajo rugs have these contrasting-color threads that run from the inner pattern out beyond the border that contains it. The imperfection is meant to give the weaver’s spirit a way out, to prevent it from getting trapped in a single pattern and reaching a premature end.

- Sarah Lewis

What is imperfect in your life?



BRING FORTH WHAT IS WITHIN YOU

If you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you.

-The Gospel of Thomas

Do I have the courage to bring forth everything within me?



DON’T BE FRIGHTENED

We must always trust in the difficult, then what appears to us as the most frightening will become our most intimate and trusted experience. How could we forget those ancient myths about dragons that at the last moment are transformed into princesses? Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love. So don't be frightened, dear friend, if sadness or anxiety casts a shadow over your life. Something is happening within you. Remember that life has not forgotten you. It holds you in its hand and will not let you go. And after all, why would you want to live without pain and unease? You don't yet know what mysterious work these feelings are accomplishing inside you.

- Rainer Maria Rilke
Letters to a Young Poet

What is your deepest fear?



WILL YOU EVER BE FULFILLED?

To my soul: Are you ever going to achieve goodness? Ever going to be simple, whole, and naked—as plain to see as the body that contains you? Know what an affectionate and loving disposition would feel like? Ever be fulfilled, ever stop desiring—lusting and longing for people and things to enjoy? Or for more time to enjoy them? Or for some other place or country—“a more temperate clime”? Or for people easier to get along with? And instead be satisfied with what you have, and accept the present—all of it. And convince yourself that everything is the gift of the gods, that things are good and always will be, whatever they decide and have in store for the preservation of that perfect entity—good and just and beautiful, creating all things, connecting and embracing them, and gathering in their separated fragments to create more like them. Will you ever take your stand as a fellow citizen with gods and human beings, blaming no one and deserving no one’s blame?

- Marcus Aurelius, Meditations






THE BURIAL

I buried my father in India. His coffin arrived at the Delhi airport in the middle of the night. We drove it through the empty streets to the graveyard. The gravediggers were already there, waiting. Stray dogs and crows lurked in the dark shadows of the graves. My father was wrapped in a white cloth. When we lowered his body into the earth, it looked like an enormous seed.

Within the darkness and pain of loss is a seed that is planted in our hearts. Only we can decide what grows from it. We must water it with our tears, but a seed also needs light and hope to grow. We must trust that it will one day bloom.

What is still buried in your heart?



THE HEART IS LIKE A GARDEN

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need better soil, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet when we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. If we knew how to take care of them, they would grow well, like the lettuce.

Blaming has no benefit at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.

-  Thich Nhat Hanh

The heart is like a garden. It can grow compassion or fear, resentment or love. What seeds will you plant today?


THE BUTTERFLY

One spring, a girl was in the garden and she found a cocoon. Inside was a butterfly struggling to break free. For hours she watched it straining its tiny limbs against the walls, making no progress. And she cried for the little creature.

Finally the girl went inside and found some scissors. She quickly cut an opening in the cocoon and the butterfly emerged easily - too easily. It looked strange: body swollen, wings shriveled. It would never fly.

Years later, she understood that the butterfly needs to struggle. The work of straining against its cocoon allows it to grow wings and become its true self.

What are you struggling with?

THE FUTURE

To live in this world, you must be able to do three things: to love what is mortal; to hold it against your bones knowing your own life depends on it; and, when the time comes to let it go, to let it go.

- Mary Oliver

I remember my father, a twinkle in his eye as he told me: The pull of the future is stronger than the push of the past. The world will continue to grow and change and so will we. Whether we chose to or not, we will be transformed a thousand times.

Can I learn to love change?



QUESTION EVERYTHING



Children ask the best questions. They are curious about everything. 
So I asked my students what questions they have.

Seventh Grade:

Who will win the next election?
Will we ever live on another planet?
Who will I become?

Second Grade:

When I grow up will the world be full of trash because of littering?
Will the earth ever explode?
Is there a way my dog can come back to life?

Twelfth Grade:

Will I always love what I love now?
Are humans born good or evil?
Will I ever fall in love?
Why is it so difficult to be alone?

THE QUESTIONS THEMSELVES

You are so young, so much before all beginning, and I would like to beg you, dear friend, as well as I can, to have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer. Perhaps you do carry within you the possibility of creating and forming, as an especially blessed and pure way of living; train yourself for that but take whatever comes, with great trust, and as long as it comes out of your will, out of some need of your innermost self, then take it upon yourself, and don't hate anything.

- Rainer Maria Rilke


THE SPARROW

When I was a child, my parents took me on a trip to Greece. We were on the island of Patmos — one hill topped by a village of little white houses nestled beneath the walls of an old monastery. That evening we walked to a café. As we made our way through the winding streets, I happened to look down to see a tiny bird, dying. I don’t know how it got there. It might have been hit by a car or flown into a window. But there it was, wings broken, gasping for breath.

Unable to leave the little sparrow, I carefully picked it up and brought it to the restaurant. We sat outside and our meal took a long time to arrive. All the while, I held the bird and watched the final moments of its life. It was so tiny and fragile. A bundle of delicate feathers and broken bones, with miniature feet and a small sharp beak, which opened and closed in painful exaggerated breaths. There was no way it could survive and nothing I could do to repair it. But I would not leave it. I felt that I could at least witness its tiny lonely death.

In the gospels, Jesus tells his disciples, “Not one sparrow falls to the ground without God knowing.”

How could God allow so much suffering?





THE UNNAMEABLE SPEAKS

Who questions my wisdom? Were you there when I planned the heavens and the earth? When I gathered the morning stars together and the angels singing.

Were you there when I held the waters, as they flowed from the womb? When I wrapped the ocean in clouds and the sea in shadows.

Have you guided the dawn across the sky? Have you walked through the depths of the ocean? Have you stood at the gates of death? Have you seen to the edge of the universe?

 -The Book of Job


SHINING THROUGH

The world is transparent and the divine is shining through all the time. You do not need to know what is happening, or where it is all going. What you need to recognize are the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.


- Thomas Merton

Can I be okay with not knowing what is going to happen?






TRULY OPEN

We can’t have empathy for another person until we have made a space in our lives where empathy can thrive. And that means being open - truly open - to feeling emotions we may not want to feel. It means allowing another’s experiences to gut us. It means losing control. Empathy begins with vulnerability. And being vulnerable, especially at work, is terrifying.

– Sara Wachter-Boettcher


THE COURAGE OF THE SEED

All the buried seeds crack open in the dark, the instant they surrender to a process they can’t see. And this innate surrender allows everything edible and fragrant to break ground into a life we call spring. In nature, we are quietly given countless models of how to give ourselves over to what appears dark and hopeless, but which is ultimately an awakening beyond all imagining.

            - The Book of Awakening


What is growing inside of you?


STAY AWAKE

After the last supper, Jesus and his disciples found a moonlit garden to spend the night. Knowing that it was their last time together before his death, Jesus made a final request of his devoted friends: "Stay awake with me!" They tried, but they fell asleep and a company of Roman soldiers entered the garden and captured Jesus.

Stay awake to the outer world and the inner life. Stay open to every experience and every feeling, even those that are the most difficult to bear.

Tell me, what else should I have done?
Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
 Tell me, what is it you plan to do
With your one wild and precious life?

            - Mary Oliver



THE CHRYSALIS

Midway through life, the caterpillar withdraws into a chrysalis. After two weeks of mysterious transformation, it emerges as a butterfly. Peering inside, we might expect to see the caterpillar growing and changing. Instead we see something far more terrifying, beautiful, and inexplicable.

The caterpillar disintegrates. It dissolves its entire body—head, tail, limbs, every organ—into a liquid pool of cells. And then, unbelievably, it reforms as a butterfly, with new limbs, wings and antennae, and a more developed brain, which somehow preserves the old memories.

Early naturalists saw two creatures: the caterpillar that dies and the butterfly that is born. In fact it is a single being that is capable of this existential change. Buried in every cell of the caterpillar, hidden and unmanifested, is the code for its future self. And only after the caterpillar has completely broken down its old self can it realize its new form.

What does it feel like to go through such a transformation?














MORNING

In the early morning, when the machines are still asleep, before our daily lives have begun, there is a silence. Whether we turn outward or inward we are immersed in this gentle presence, this beautiful silence that asks nothing of us, and allows us to be ourselves. Not the selves we were yesterday or last year. Our true self at this moment.

And then we are joined by our friends: the morning stars, the call of bird songs, our children waking up to a new day.

Will I learn to listen?


LISTEN  

Voices. Voices. Listen, my heart, as only saints have listened, until the gigantic call lifted them off the ground, yet they kept on, impossibly, kneeling and didn't notice at all: so complete was their listening. Not that we can bear God's voice – not by far.  But listen to the voice of the wind and the endless message, that forms itself out of silence. 

- Rainer Maria Rilke



ONE LIFE

We have descended from the stars. We have evolved through the forms of thousands upon thousands of animals. We have passed through the lives of our ancestors, our grandparents, and our parents. And now we are finally born into this one moment of existence. We have this one chance. We have this one life.

How am I going to spend my one life?





FREEDOM

One Palm Sunday I went to mass inside San Quentin. The prisoners filled the pews in their blue jumpsuits. I wore a fancy sports coat. The chapel was adorned with palm leaves and the choir sang a hymn in Spanish: “Dios mío, Dios mío, ¿por qué me has abandonado?" My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? The prisoners know they are not free in this world, and so they seek spiritual freedom.

Most of us on the outside enjoy the freedom to do whatever we want, yet we are still bound by our own fears and expectations. We still hide parts of ourselves from ever being seen, accepted, or forgiven. In order to be truly free, we must have the courage to be our authentic self in the world, to see and be seen for who we truly are. And then, as Christ said, “the truth shall set you free.”


THE LOTUS AND THE MUD

The most beautiful lotus flower grows from the deepest mud. When the flower dies it becomes compost again. Happiness and suffering are ever changing. Happiness becomes suffering. And suffering can become happiness again.

- Thich Nhat Hanh

Can I be open to all my feelings?


DO YOU LOVE ME?

In the Gospel of John, Jesus asks his disciple three times:
Do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me?

These same words echo in every human heart. Our deepest longing is not to be admired, but to be loved. To be witnessed as we truly are. Only love can cut through all our defenses and enter the most inner part of our heart. Only love can reveal our true self.

We do not believe in ourselves until someone
reveals that something deep inside us is valuable,
worth listening to, worthy of our trust, sacred to our touch.
Once we believe in ourselves we can risk curiosity,
wonder, spontaneous delight or any experience
that reveals the human spirit.

- E. E. Cummings





RESURRECTION

There are many words for resurrection. The Greek word, egersis, also means awakening. Jesus calls prayer watchfulness or wakefulness, and even on the eve of his crucifixion, he pleads with his disciples to stay awake. But they fall asleep and he is led off to his death and the darkness of the tomb. Three days later, he awakens to eternal life.

The promise of resurrection is written in all of nature. Everything is born and dies, and yet is eternal. The moon fades each month, disappears for three days (the same three days Jesus spends in the tomb), and then returns to life, first as a sliver and then full of light. Plants and animals that have slept through the winter awaken in the spring.

Awakening is a process. A seed must be planted in the darkness of the earth in order to open its tender inner world. Sometimes we, too, must give ourselves completely to that which seems dark and hopeless. Only then can we crack open and awaken to a new season of life.




THE SPRINGTIME

Yes! The springtime needs you. Often a star is waiting for you to notice it. A wave rolls toward you from the distant past.

Or as you walk under an open window, the sound of a violin calls out to you. All of this is a mission. But can you recognize it?

Or are you constantly distracted by your expectations?

Rainer Maria Rilke
Duino Elegies



THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT

According to the butterfly effect, one small event, such as a butterfly flapping its wings, can result in widespread consequences, like a thunderstorm. Everything we do matters. Everything we think and feel influences the world around us.

How would you like to affect the world?

THE BODHISATTVA

In the Buddhist tradition, there are Bodhisattvas, spirits of compassion that travel the celestial worlds. One Bodhisattva has placed himself in the lowest hell. He will remain there in the darkness for thousands of generations. He will not leave until everyone else makes it out.

There is so much suffering in life: pain, illness, loss, guilt, sadness. But no matter how dark the ordeal, we are never alone. There is always a spirit of compassion in the darkness. And sometimes, we must be that Bodhisattva.




THE HOSPITAL

So all of us went to the hospital. Our father was in a ward. We had arrived too early and had to wait. Vaguely depressed by the smell of sickness and disinfectant that all hospitals have, we sat in a corridor downstairs for upwards of half an hour. I hid my face in a blanket and cried.

We were completely helpless. There was nothing anyone could do. What could we make of so much suffering? Try to avoid it, if you could. But you must eventually reach the point where you can’t avoid it anymore. The more you try to avoid suffering, the more you suffer. We must accept suffering. We must make it holy.

-Thomas Merton


DEAD BRANCHES

As every gardener knows, removing dead branches helps a plant grow. Lent is a season of letting go. The purpose is to look at ourselves openly and honestly. And decide what we must give up in order to be truly alive.

What must I let go?



LIBERATION

To forgive another person from the heart is an act of liberation. We set that person free from the anger we feel towards them. But we also free ourselves from the burden of being the offended one. The temptation is to cling to anger and then define ourselves as being offended and wounded. Forgiveness, therefore, liberates not only the other but also ourselves.

-       Henri Nouwen

Have I forgiven others? Have I forgiven myself?

THE MIGRATION

In December of 1833, Charles Darwin’s ship sailed from the muddy stream of the Rio Plata and out to sea. One evening, when the ship was some miles off the coast of Patagonia, they came upon a large flock of butterflies. The creatures landed on the ship in great numbers, covering the sails and rigging with fluttering wings. The crew stood in amazement, as they too were covered with butterflies. After an hour or so the wind picked up and blew the flock along.

As Darwin observed, these creatures have performed their great migrations for thousands of years. Before any humans populated the Americas, these delicate creatures, which represent the soul in mythology, flew in great flocks on their seasonal journey. For the last several years their numbers have fallen dramatically. Their nesting grounds are almost empty. They are disappearing from our land.


OPENING

God breaks the heart again and again, until it stays open.

- Hazrat Inayat Khan



ELEGY

Someday, emerging at last from this fierce vision, let me sing out joy and praise to assenting angels. Let not even one of the clearly struck hammers of my heart fail to sound because of doubt, slack, or a broken string. Let my joyfully streaming face make me more radiant. Let my hidden weeping arise and blossom.

How dear you’ll be to me then, you nights of anguish. Why didn’t I kneel more deeply to accept you, inconsolable sisters, and surrendering, lose myself in your loosened hair.
How we squander our nights of pain. How we try to gaze beyond them to see if they have an end. Though they are really our winter enduring evergreen, one season in our inner time.

-       Rainer Maria Rilke






ALL IN THE WAITING

Jesus is alone in his death. In the garden in the night, he pleads, “The sorrow in my heart is so great that it almost crushes me. Stay awake with me.” But his disciples fall asleep, and the soldiers come and arrest him.

His friends don’t even have the courage to admit they knew him. They betray him, deny him, and hide as their beloved teacher is sentenced to death. The people of Jerusalem, who cheered as he entered the holy city, now mock him as he is led through the same streets.

He is hung from a cross with unknown thieves. It is a dark afternoon. And in his pain he cries out, “My God, why have you forsaken me?”

 ... I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope
For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love
For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith
But the faith and the love and the hope are all in the waiting.

      T.S. Elliot
Four Quartets








GENESIS

Each one of the countless atoms that make up our bodies has its own history. They once made up the bodies of Buddha, Socrates and Jesus, as well as millions of Stone Age hunters and prehistoric birds, fish and ferns. When we die, they all return to the soil to await a new life. Dust you are and to dust you will return.

Atoms are bound into molecules, which are organized into cells, which are layered into living creatures. Life is a sequence of structures, each nested upon a previous one. Cells arise from previous cells. Creatures emerge from previous creatures. Every living cell, every being, is embedded in the previous form.

Our parents, grandparents, and great-grandparents live on in us as a living transmission. Every being is part of this transmission, which leads back to the very origins of life. Yet every human being still begins as a single cell, a seed that contains the entire tree of life.

Are we all one being?





TWO MOMENTS

There are two moments that matter. One is when you know that your one and only life is absolutely valuable and sacred. The other is when you know your life, as presently lived, is entirely pointless and empty. You need both of them to keep you going in the right direction. Lent is about both.

-       Richard Rohr

What would it take for you to be fully alive?




XLV Friday

DAILY REFLECTION

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love. Concentrate every minute on doing what’s in front of you with precise and genuine seriousness, tenderly, willingly, with justice, and on freeing yourself from all other distractions. You see how few things you have to do to live a satisfying and reverent life? Just that you do the right thing. The rest doesn't matter: cold or warm, tired or well-rested, despised or honored. Before long, all existing things will be transformed, to rise like smoke (assuming all things become one), or be dispersed in fragments...to move from one unselfish act to another with God in mind.

-       Marcus Aurelius



XLVI Saturday

LET EVERYTHING HAPPEN

God speaks to each of us as he makes us, then walks with us silently out of the night.

These are the words we dimly hear:

You, sent out beyond your recall, go to the limits of your longing. Embody me.  Flare up like flame and make big shadows I can move in.

Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final. Don't let yourself lose me.

Nearby is the country they call life. You will know it by its seriousness.

Give me your hand.

-       Rainer Maria Rilke Book of Hours

EASTER

This is the first, the wildest and the wisest thing I know: that the soul exists and is built entirely out of attentiveness.

 - Mary Oliver


May you uncover all that is hidden within you. Keep seeking, listening, feeling, and questioning.  Stay awake.

With blessings and love,
Mirza